Hello Jane,
I hear your dilemma. 
My Meeting needs all the bookings it can take and though I'm contracted to work 
Monday to Friday, 25 hours, I have to spread those hours over the week as, as I say,
we need all the bookings we can get.
You might wish to take that booking once a month...can you cope with that extra noise once a month
on your afternoon off?
As it is just once a month, is it a possibility that you can take your peace and quiet time somewhere else,
just for that afternoon?
Also, if the group can be trusted to leave the premises in an acceptable condition, security checks etc?

If they can leave the premises in an acceptable condition, and you can find your downtime
when they are in somewhere acceptable to you, then that's fine, 
but if you just want to be 'at home', then personally I would suggest not taking the booking, 
as I know to my cost that mental health is a fragile thing and you really do not need to have 
people in the building if you are consciously or subconsciously aware that you are still 'on duty' 
even when 'trying not to be'.

It's difficult, but ultimately you have to look after your own mental health,
to carry on with your duties as warden.
I know this.
With supportive thoughts, and
In peace and friendship,
Ann

Ann Turner

Warden, and Bookings

Scarborough Friends (Quakers) Meeting House

Quaker Close,  Scarborough, North Yorkshire YO12 5QZ

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t:   01723 362 756 (mostly answerphone)

Please note I work part-time hours and will respond as soon as I can

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From:
"Wendrie Heywood" <wendrie@mindfulbusinessservices.com>

To:
"Jane Keay via wardenship" <wardenship@lists.quaker.eu.org>
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Thu, 13 Jul 2023 20:05:28 +0100
Subject:
[wardenship] Re: Sunday Groups


Hi Jane,

It is up to your meeting - but they have a responsibility to ensure that you (and your family) have time off. Can someone else take responsibility on certain days? Or agree that certain times/days are only booked if someone else takes responsibility?

Especially as your living space is so closely entwined with your work space, it is hard to switch off. 

At Muswell Hill we put in switches on the doorbells, so that they didn't ring in the Wardens flat when we weren't on duty. Before then I'd found myself on edge waiting/wondering if someone was about to interrupt our time off, after I knew that even if they rang we wouldn't hear them. Didn't stop people walking around the building and banging on windows mind - but those were the very determined ones!

I hope you can find a way forward that meets your needs and the meeting's.

Yours in peace,

Wendrie Heywood
she/her
MindfulBusinessServices.com



On Thu, 13 Jul 2023 at 14:46, Warden <worthing.quakers@gmail.com> wrote:
Dear Jane,

At Worthing we don't have days off in the Meeting House and we have Sunday afternoon bookings every other week (I wish we could have it every week as we need money to pay MH bills).

I think it's up to your Meeting to decide and also up to your job contract.
I personally have another job and work every Sunday afternoon there, so I tidy up when I come back in the evening.

I wish that Sunday afternoons would be for the rest, but many people work on Sunday... my family including.
So it's up to you and your Meeting really.

in Friendship 
Elena Krumgolde, warden at Worthing 

On Thu, 13 Jul 2023, 11:53 Jane Keay via wardenship, <wardenship@lists.quaker.eu.org> wrote:



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Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2023 11:13:40 +0100
Subject: [wardenship] Sunday Groups
Dear Wardens/Managers and Resident Friends,

At Watford Quaker Meeting House we have groups hiring our rooms and the garden throughout the week, also Saturdays.
I have been asked by a local Romanian Christian group whether they could book once a month on a Sunday afternoon. (A couple of rooms including the Children’s Room.)  For years we given space to the local Unitarian Fellowship on a Sunday, once a month. This seems to work fine.
I live directly upstairs from the Meeting House and can hear furniture being moved and the extractor fans in the toilets etc !
I would love to take on the Romanian Christian Group who are eager for the space but my dilemma is that Sundays afternoons are a time to stop and rest.
My question is:  Do other Meeting Houses book groups on Sunday afternoons?
Is there an expectation to do this from your Meeting ?
Would this work if this was passed on to another person to clear away afterwards? Or can the Meeting House building just have a quiet afternoon ? (After the occasional shared lunch and talks of course.)

Thank you for any comments or shared experiences,

Jane K.
Warden


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